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Starting Fresh

MarriageAndrea SmithComment

When you get home from your honeymoon and you've had some down time, you now need to get things moving. First things first, food. Your fridge is empty and you need to shop ASAP. But where do you start?! My husband and I like to have a game plan set before we make purchases. We are a newly wed couple, barely getting by with the rent and need to wise about our spending. So this might sound really rigid. But, for newbies who are broke, we wanted to start out with the right foot financially. Below I have some suggestions that have helped me and my husband out so far.


Here are 5 Tips that have helped me when shopping “Together”

  1. STICK TO THE BUDGET When it's your first time shopping for groceries make sure you have enough money to get everything you need. You'll be surprised how quickly things add up. We ourselves ended up going over the budget. But we underestimated on what we needed and how much everything would cost, and I don't want you to make the same mistake. So try not to blow ALL your money on the honeymoon so you have some money for when you get home. Luckily we had some left over money and were able to cover it. But from now on we've agreed, we stick to the budget.
  2. MAKE A LIST I find lists to be a lifesaver because it saves me time and money. Even when I was single it helped me so much in making purchases that I NEEDED, and wait on other things that I WANTED.
  3. GO SHOPPING TOGETHER I've heard it's important to go shopping together often during the year of marriage. I think it's fair to say that's true. Think about it, you are two different people starting to live together FOREVER! So you need to figure each other out, give and take a little so your spouse can see what you like and dislike.
  4. BE PATIENT My husband gave me this great pointer and it's so true! You really need to be patient and gracious with each other when you go out. Jared and I had a good time out shopping our first time. Until we came to the checkout :-) but we learned from our mistake and will move on. Even though you have been dating for x amount of years, or engaged, it's so different when you start living together and you're stuck with them. ;-) You have to work it out. You've gotten this far from when you first dated to your wedding day. If you're having a disagreement about which cereal to buy, take a step back and breathe.
  5. EAT BEFORE YOU GO OMG I don't know how many times I've done this, but I tend to be in a rush and go run errands but forget to eat! Then I end up spending WAY more than I wanted to, and end feeling discouraged. But when I eat BEFORE I go grocery shopping I am much less tempted to spend extra money. I think I am not alone here. We all have done this so start making it a habit now before it gets crazy.

How to save Money-

Coupons

-Decide where you want to shop and look online or in the paper for coupons, you could save more than you think!

Farmers Market

-Purchase fresh, organic foods and spices for super affordable prices. Ask around. People know where to shop and save money

Food Pantry

-You'll be surprised, but if you are on a tight budget lots of food pantries and churches get donated great food from places like Panera Bread, Dean and Deluca etc. And it's all free!

***I would LOVE to hear your suggestions and comments regarding this post. I want to make this a place where people can come and give advice and suggestions for married life. Look forward to reading your thoughts! :-)

Now What?

MarriageAndrea SmithComment

When you get home from your honeymoon, just do yourself a favor and don't do ANYTHING! Give yourself permission to continue to relax for a day or two after you come back from being in paradise with your hubby.

If you're anything like me, you'll know what I'm talking about. You start thinking about all the thing you've got to do once you get home like, write those thank you cards for the gifts, let both sets of parents know you made it home alright, there's nothing in the fridge and now you have to go grocery shopping from scratch. Oy vey. It can get overwhelming fairly quickly.

As you're still getting use to being a “Mrs”, when you first arrive home just take the rest of your day to chill. Go order takeout, drink some wine (or beverage of choice), cuddle while watching a favorite movie, and have some fun before bed ;-)

The key for when you get back from your honeymoon is to continue to have the mindset that you can take your time and enjoy life. You are newly married! Now is the time to take a step back, look at the bigger picture, grab your husbands hand and admire the beauty of all that you've accomplished to get to where you are now andyour future together. Have fun and enjoy your first day back!

Tips for Day 1:

  1. Unpack and organize

    -Start with your clothes first, but ONLY if you have all the proper furniture to place your things in

  1. Open up all gifts

    -If you haven't already) and write Thank Yous (I think this is an easy and relaxing way to get something done. And all you have to do is sit and write. I recommend going to www.postable.com to write your thank you cards. It's only great for organizing your online addresses, but now you can pick a card, type it out, and click send for $2 a card. A pretty good deal in my opinion!

  2. Limit yourself to working on one room ONLY

    -And if you REALLY need to do something, then organize a room that you already have all of your décor and supplies for. If you don't then go read a good book.

  3. Start laundry (simple enough)

  4. Don't do any of the following things and order your favorite take out

    -Eat, drink, and be merry