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The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up-A Book Review

Life, Minimalism, KonMariAndrea SmithComment
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If you've been following me on social media, then you know I've been more than enthusiastic about the book, "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying". Marie Kondo takes tidying to a whole new level with her system of decluttering, by using the category method than by room, or the little by little approach. Which has made this method "KonMari" probably the most effective way of tidying up once and for all.

But as I began reading this book, it was more than just about tidying. She asks really hard questions, that takes time to evaluate your heart and what you really want in life. I think this is one of the reasons why I love this book and method so much, because she helps you see clearly the areas in your life where you have been making excuses upon excuses to not change your habits. One of the reasons our homes are the way they are is because of our past experiences and our fear of the future, by facing your past and saying good bye, you not only get freed up but you can also confront your future with arms wide open and not cowering with fear of the unknowns. 

Here are 10 reasons why I love the KonMari Method;

The Pros-

1.) Direct, and to the point (no BS nonsense).

2.) She shares her life experiences, which feels a lot less intimidating. 

3.) The method works! She give tons of testimonies of people who were boarder line hoarders and NONE of them have relapse.

4.) She helps you see the things you've been hanging onto in your life that don't bring you joy.

5.) She helps you get clarity and vision for what kind of lifestyle you want to live and come home to.

6.) You learn the difference between "tidying" and "decluttering"

7.) You become more happier when you come home to a tidy house.

8.) You start living the life you want. (pursuing your dreams and goals etc.)

9.) You learn more about yourself, your likes and dislikes.

10.) You lose nothing! You only gain a better understanding of yourself, and are given tools to make changes within your home.

Here are 2 reasons of why I don't like this method;

The Cons-

1.) Although she talks about some spiritual things that I don't agree with, I can still respect her, and follow most of the steps she has laid out for tidying. So when you get to some of the parts where it gets little weird just skip it, it's OK. I don't think it will really make or break the tidying process. 

2A.) The only other con I have for this, is that I think you have to have outside help. Meaning if you're really going to tackle this, you need at least a good 2 full days to go through this process. Or be committed to tackling a category everyday after you get off work until everything is completed. I am mostly speaking to single folk regarding this.

2B.) As for families and stay at home mommas reading this, now that I have gone through the process, I wish I would of been able to go through it closer to her method of category by category.

What I did, was I went through each room, and then broke it down category by category. This is because when you have a little one or little one(s) tackling a category based on the whole house can be daunting and I am unsure it can be done when you are a stay at home mom. That being said, I would recommend having the kids stay with Grandma and Grandpa over a weekend and you and your husband tackle the whole house together. There is still a good chance you won't get everything done, but I am pretty sure you could get at least 50% completed, and then try again the following week. 

If you don't have family in town, I would recommend having a couple of close friends come over and help you with the decluttering process and/or help watch your kids so you can get a few categories completed. 

There is a way to get this done! You just have to be creative and ask for help. Once you go through this process you will never again have to declutter your house! And all the angels sing... GLORY! :-)

Here are some links to check out to start your KonMari journey! Happy tidying!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DmbiwdkGQlU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w1-HMMX_NR8

http://www.uselesswardrobe.dk/?s=kon+mari

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7uLdLA6IHE (beware of lanuage but she is great!)

Charlotte Brontes' Jane Eyre

Book ReviewsAndrea SmithComment

A story of betrayal, anger, love, heartbreak and redemption. Jane Eyre is a must read classic. Thandie Newton gives a brilliant performance in the audio book as she captures you with her narration of this story. This was my first audiobook I signed up for and I couldn't wait until it was my son's nap time. This story is so good, I cried, smiled and gripped the couch at every turn of this book. The movie has nothing on this book. If you are considering audio books do it! You will not be disappointed.

Joy

Life, Family, Motherhood, Marriage, Pregnancy, QuotesAndrea SmithComment

This quote is so hard for me to hear. I literally just sat here and re-read this about 20 minutes. 

I have been in a hard, long season of depression and joylessness. I don't know if that's a word but I just invented it, so whatever, it's my blog so my rules :-) Anyways, simple put, joy is a choice. Just like most emotions in life. I wrote on our blackboard this phrase,"Today is a good day, for a good day." So every time I get upset or want to yell at little Liam (my son) I see that big annoying board and it reminds me that I have control over my emotions, and I get to choose if we are going to have a good day or not. I am the homemaker and I am the one setting the tone or atmosphere in our home, so what will I choose today? 

So next time you're frustrated that the house is a mess and you didn't get anything on your unrealistic check list done, just remember that it's really not the end of the world. You get to be the person that affects your home, that little face looking at you, and the people who surround you. Joy is a choice, so what will be your choice today?

The Sound of Music

Family, Motherhood, QuotesAndrea SmithComment

To me this quote says, "Andrea, you can read books, ask for advice and get unwanted advice, but motherhood is different for everybody and you're going to have to figure out some stuff on your own."

I will be the first to admit that I ask for help and advice ALL THE TIME! But I'm not ashamed, cause I know I need help and I want to glean on the wisdom of others. I think though we can get caught up in what everybody else says, and what everybody is doing and you start to question, "am I doing this right? Why isn't this working for us?" The list goes on and on. What works for one family doesn't work for another, and God gave YOU your baby because he wanted YOU to raise your baby, not someone else. He gave YOU that baby because He knew YOU could do it, and that you would be the best mom for that baby. Trust your instincts. So if you just keep hitting a wall with your kid(s) and are wondering what more should you do, ask the Guy who created that little one and I'm sure He'll give you some answers. 

Being Present

Motherhood, Family, QuotesAndrea SmithComment

Maya Angelou... need I say more? Being present and thankful as a mom can be extremely difficult on a day to day basis. It's really true of what the moms of old say, "Enjoy every moment, you won't have it forever." It's hard to really appreciate that when your baby is screaming and your toddler is pulling your hair, when you just want to go to the bathroom in peace and they bang on the door and cry like you've abandoned them!

Being present and thankful in those small moments when you are feeding them and they stop, stare and give you a toothless grin. When they unknowingly hold your hand when you're crying about everything, when they say those precious words, "I love you Mommy". I have yet to hear that last one, but when I do it will be the best day ever and I will be more grateful to have that little person cheer me on and remind me to be ever present and ever thankful for the life that I have.