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The Sound of Music

Family, Motherhood, QuotesAndrea SmithComment

To me this quote says, "Andrea, you can read books, ask for advice and get unwanted advice, but motherhood is different for everybody and you're going to have to figure out some stuff on your own."

I will be the first to admit that I ask for help and advice ALL THE TIME! But I'm not ashamed, cause I know I need help and I want to glean on the wisdom of others. I think though we can get caught up in what everybody else says, and what everybody is doing and you start to question, "am I doing this right? Why isn't this working for us?" The list goes on and on. What works for one family doesn't work for another, and God gave YOU your baby because he wanted YOU to raise your baby, not someone else. He gave YOU that baby because He knew YOU could do it, and that you would be the best mom for that baby. Trust your instincts. So if you just keep hitting a wall with your kid(s) and are wondering what more should you do, ask the Guy who created that little one and I'm sure He'll give you some answers. 

Diamond in the Rough

LifeAndrea SmithComment

In some season of your life, you feel like you are just stuck in a hard place. Other times the sun on your face feels like you can finally breathe again. No matter the season you are in two things matter more than anything; 1.) Do you still call God faithful? and 2.) Is He for you? I think answering truthfully those two questions, you can find true rest in your Father. You can find true rest in your heart, mind, body and soul. 

I am coming to learn that just because I have a husband, a roof over my head and a cute little baby does not mean that my life is a beautiful cake and I can eat it too. This season has been one of the most challenging in my life to date. I have felt lost, alone, confused, hatred, rage, anger, frustration, worry, you name it I've probably felt it. It took me too long to realize that I didn't want to live this way anymore, and I didn't have to. I reached out and up. At the end of myself I looked to the One that could take away my heartache and replace it with joy. I looked to the One who's eyes burn like fire and He told me that everything was going to be alright if I just kept my gaze on Him.

At times I have wanted to look away, but my heart says to hold on. The little girl inside says to hold on to hope. Hold on to love. Hold on to the One who was there through every horrible moment, and every joyful one. So instead of letting my life define who I am, I am letting my Creator define me by how He sees me. He sees the true me and that doesn't look like the things that I do or don't do, but He sees things in my heart that I am not even aware of. 

So now the choices. I have the choice to either trust in the character and nature of who God is, or choose to continue to look at myself and see how I can get myself out of the mess called life. No matter what season I am in, I want to be content. You don't have to be content with where you are at or who you are at the moment, but you can be content in who you are through Christ and where He is taking you.

Is Breast Best?

Motherhood, Family, PregnancyAndrea SmithComment

Oh, the highs and lows of breastfeeding

When people tell you that breastfeeding is best for your baby, it really is true. But no one tells you how hard it really is. I was an avid researcher while I was pregnant with learning all the things I needed to know with what was going on with my body and my baby.

In my third trimester was when I started to do research of breastfeeding. I highly recommend The Art of Breastfeeding by La Leche International. It really is the bible for breastfeeding. I read up to half of the book before my son decided to make his debut. It was really helpful in getting me a head start mentally with how much work you have to put into breastfeeding. But nothing, I mean NOTHING prepares you until you actually go through it. I knew breastfeeding was hard. But I did not know HOW hard it was until I was facing engorged breasts, painful nipples, fear of yeast infections, nipple shields, 3AM feedings, on-demand feedings and more.

I don't care what people tell you about breastfeeding. It is bleeping hard!

Is it worth it? Yes. There are so many benefits to breastfeeding. Bonding with your child, free milk, saving money long term, portable, high percentages with learning are better, extremely low chance of being obese, the list goes on. Would I do it all over again? Yes. Do you use formula? Yes! If I don't have time to pump, (which a lot of the time I don't) when my son goes over to Grandma and Grandpas house, if they don't have the milk I pumped, he drinks the formula, and guess what... he's fine. Seriously this is NOT an article to bash moms who couldn't breastfeed their child. I give you a standing ovation for trying or not trying! It is a lot of work. But for me and my family, I decided I wanted to breastfeed.

Here's my journey so far with breastfeeding. All my milk came in the day after I delivered. Some of you may think wow that's amazing! Eh no it wasn't. I woke up from a nap, and my boobs were freaking rocks and I mean rocks! I didn't get to see a lactation consulate until the following day and I was in so. Much. Pain. Plus, they massaged the crap out of my breasts that I am pretty sure I have damaged scar tissue and my right breast literally hurts all the time. Being a first time