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The Sound of Music

Family, Motherhood, QuotesAndrea SmithComment

To me this quote says, "Andrea, you can read books, ask for advice and get unwanted advice, but motherhood is different for everybody and you're going to have to figure out some stuff on your own."

I will be the first to admit that I ask for help and advice ALL THE TIME! But I'm not ashamed, cause I know I need help and I want to glean on the wisdom of others. I think though we can get caught up in what everybody else says, and what everybody is doing and you start to question, "am I doing this right? Why isn't this working for us?" The list goes on and on. What works for one family doesn't work for another, and God gave YOU your baby because he wanted YOU to raise your baby, not someone else. He gave YOU that baby because He knew YOU could do it, and that you would be the best mom for that baby. Trust your instincts. So if you just keep hitting a wall with your kid(s) and are wondering what more should you do, ask the Guy who created that little one and I'm sure He'll give you some answers. 

Happy New Year!

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This quote is more true today, then any other year of my life. I know it's a little late to be saying, "Happy New Year!" But there has been major transition in this season for me and my family. We are currently leaving a staff position of ministry we dearly love, and the Lord has been really speaking to me and my husband about priorities. We haven't been putting the Lord first in our lives, but everything else.

The past several months have been a time of humility and grace. I feel strongly the Lord is wants our whole hearts and He will do whatever it takes to have it all. Even if that means flipping our world upside to have us look to Him instead of ourselves or other people. This year I am willing to do whatever it takes to follow the Lord wholeheartedly. I want my heart to feel alive again, even if that means going through the purging. If I can draw closer to Him, love others better, love myself more, then I say amen, let's stand.

How far are you willing to go for the Jesus?

Traveling with a Newborn

Family, Motherhood, PregnancyAndrea SmithComment

We recently went on a trip to Florida for a friends' wedding. We currently live in Kansas City and the drive is roughly 14-16 hours. It was a last minute decision and our friends' were so kind as to pay for us to attend their destination wedding. We jumped on the opportunity 3 weeks before there wedding and were on our way.

Sadly we did not consider the effects it would be on our little then 3 month year old son and how it wouldn't be as fun as we would have liked it to be. From the car ride, to breastfeeding in the car, to 18 hours one way, to being with a car full of dudes. Yes, there was 4 other grow men with me and I was the only girl, ain't I lucky ;-)

I don't mean that in a bad way either! The guys were so patient, so kind, so helpful during that trip that I couldn't of done it without them. I'm so blessed to have such amazing men in my life that they were willing to deal with a crying, fussy baby and a married couple feeling very stressed out and self concious of their surroundings.

First off, if you can avoid it, I would highly and I mean HIGHLY recommend not traveling with a child under 6 months old. It is not only extremely stressful for you and your spouse. But it's very overwhelming for a little person who is new to the world as it is. Liam (my son) was used to a 20 min car rides not 18 hours. The beach was an experience which I think he enjoyed but was also taking a lot in visually, hearing the ocean for the first time, touching sand between his toes, sleeping was off due to a new sleeping environment etc. All so new and awesome. But A, he won't even remember it, and B it was just stressful for everyone taking in all this new information.

So, overall, Florida was an... experience. We had a lot of ups and downs but we made it, and won't do that again until he's older lol.

I learned a lot going on this trip. Like things to bring and not bring. Here are some traveling tips I would highly recommend to bring if you do want to travel with a little person under 6 months old. I don't believe that you over pack while on vacation.

Here are my top 5 things to keep in mind while packing up your little person.

1.) YOU CAN NEVER HAVE TOO MANY DIAPERS!!!

I can't stress that enough. You never know how much or how little your person is going to pee and poop. We were gone for 5 days and I packed 7 outfits and 7 days worth of diapers and guess what. I used them all. Yes. I used his last diaper when we were 4 hours away from KC. Whew. Just barely made it!

2.) Pack extra clothes

Like I said above you never know if they are going to poop up their back everyday, or you get rained on because of unforseen weather conditions, but pack at least a couple days of extra clothes for them so you don't have to go out and buy them. This not only saves time spent at the store buying clothes, but saves you money so you can enjoy your vacation.

3.) Bottle or Breast needs

So, Florida is hot, if you didn't know. For you breastfeeders I would bring extra dispoable nursing pads and clothe pads. I would use the clothe pads during the day and use the dispoable ones in the evening. Or you can do vise versa whatever works for you.

For bottle feeders, pack enough formula. If you use a particular formula you don't know if the store will have what you need, so honestly, pack extra, you never know if your baby will have a growth spurt while you're on your trip and need extra milk or if they get sick and just want more milk because it's the only thing that will soothe them.

4.) Pack N Play/Bassinet

Whatever you have your child sleeping in at home, you want to bring that with you when you go traveling. We drove so it was a little bit easier to pack up our Pack N Play with us. But if you're flying and staying in a hotel I would recommend getting a King Size Bed. We were blessed with one in our room and discovered that Liam slept better with us than in his Pack N Play. Wish we had a King size bed at home but we alternate now at the house.

5.) Toys

This I think is completely optional. Liam was still so small that he was interested in anything but people. So we only packed like 3 toys for him and he hardly used them. I think for older kids I would do the same thing, bring a few of their favorite toys that they can play with in the car and purchase some cool toys at your destination. This makes the vacation a little more speical to them, they can say, " I got this toy in Toyko." Or wherever.

No matter what, you CAN do this trip. It's hard, but you can do it and it's not impossible.

Galatians 5:22-23

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

Helping

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Audrey Hepburn has been an inspiration in my life for many year. As one who was the spokesperson and ambassador for the UN and has helped hundreds of children all over the world, she has not only impacted people through her movies, but through her heart.

Now that I am married and now have a baby, I am way more eager to help others out than myself. I don't mean that in an arrogant way, I'm just saying you care less about yourself and put other people first. I have never been that person to go out of my way for someone I didn't know. But now I am learning how to truly love people where they are at. God is changing my heart everyday, by giving me opportunity to step out and help someone. I know I am still weak in this area, but I am more willing than I was before with helping people. Who will lend a helping hand to today?

25 & Pregnant

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I never thought I would be a mom. I wasn't one of the those girls who grew up wanting to get married, have kids and live happily ever after. I knew it wasn't a reality, so I never really thought about it. Being a mom comes with so muchresponsibility and sacrifice, that I was not willing to give up. Yes, you can say I am selfish. I'll be the first to admit that. But from my broken perspective, having kids was a burden, a dream destroyer, and a life sucker. I see so many burnt out parents, kids acting wild to get some love and attention, and families being torn apart with divorce. So yes, I didn't want kids, sometimes I am still hesitated in bringing forth a living human being to this war-torn world.


As I looked around me seeing all of these moms so excited to have babies. But I was freaking out. I still have my moments, something that I am working through everyday. How can I be a mom?! I'm only 25, I haven't even landed in my career yet, it's been a rough of marriage and now there's this kid that decides to show up. I was so angry. This is just all so sudden. You can say, "well at least it wasn't a honeymoon baby" yeah I get that, but seriously, shut up, no one wants to hear that. I felt so alone even with friends and family surrounding me. Everyone would asked me if I am excited, I was getting fatter, I wanted to throw up every two seconds and sleep at the same time. So no, not really excited. Now go get me some Chinese food and a Costco box of Tums ;-)

I started to think about why I was so upset, why I was so angry, why I was letting fear take over my life. I feared that I would fail. I feared that I wouldn't be a good parent. I feared I wouldn't love my child.  I feared that the kid(s) would drive a wedge between myself and Jared. So much fear and for what? Like really, why should I give into fear when I have a God who has literally given me life to live without fear.

I began to think about the last seven years of my life. How I was a train wreck out of high school, having no direction, pissed drunk and hated who I was and where I was going. Then Jesus showed up, and completely filled my heart up with love for the first time in my life. I never felt so free. The past seven years has been a time of preparation spiritually, and mentally to walk fully into the calling that He has for me. The number seven in the bible means "complete" "coming into fullness". So when the  Holy Spirit was reminding me of this I sat down in awe, as tears were streaming down my face. I grew up in a broken family and now the Lord gave me a husband who will never leave me till death do us part. He is giving me a child to raise in a godly home, and to be a disciple maker. He has been telling me the last couple of years to begin writing and I am actually doing it. Yeah, I fail at doing it a lot of the time, but it's better than not writing at all. All this to say, the Lord has been more than kind to me. He really does care and has bigger plans for me than I could ever imagine.

I know I won't be the perfect mom, I know I will have scary times, I know my kids won't be perfect. But I have a God who is the perfect Father, nothing scares him, and my kids will be perfect because that's the way he sees them. All I can do is trust that the Lord knows what He is doing, through the hard times and good times. I can now say the Lord is still in the process of healing my heart from past wounds and changing my perspective on parenting. As I look into my son's eyes, I can now say I am excited to see what adventures await for us and our growing family.